Project HELP to host National Crime Victims’ Rights Week celebration in Naples

Project HELP to host National Crime Victims’ Rights Week celebration in Naples

The annual observation of National Crime Victims’ Rights Week raises awareness for those who have been victimized by a violent crime, as well as the loved ones of victims.

Project HELP, a nonprofit in Naples dedicated toward easing the pain of those affected by rape, violence, crime or loss of a loved one, is hosting a celebration of NCVR Week from 4-6 p.m. on Friday, April 12, at Sugden Regional Park, 4284 Avalon Drive in Naples.

Victim service providers from Project HELP and various law enforcement agencies and state entities will be on hand to speak with the community about this important week, as well as April being Sexual Assault Awareness Month.

“This is always a critical month for Project HELP to raise awareness of our mission and to let people know in the community that in your darkest hour, there is a helping hand right around the corner here for you,” said Project HELP Executive Director Eileen Wesley. “There are also a number of resources available to victims of crimes that everyone should be aware of, should they ever be placed in a difficult situation. We’re here to share these tips and to provide comfort and care to anyone who needs it in our community.”

The event will feature a number of prominent speakers, Bagpipe music, and some food and water will be served. The event is free to attend.

Collier County Sheriff Kevin Rambosk, Naples Police Chief Tom Weschler and Chief Assistant State Attorney of Florida’s 20th Judicial Circuit, Rich Montecalvo, will be among those giving speeches at Project HELP’s event.

Click here to view the flyer for the event.

Project HELP enhances services for victims with disabilities

Victim services center Project HELP received a big boost recently thanks to the organization’s acquisition of ADA-compliant forensic examination beds.

These state-of-the-art beds allow the local rape recovery and victim services center nonprofit to help victims with disabilities, previously a difficult task that is now easily possible thanks to this acquisition, according to Executive Director Eileen Wesley.

“These beds provide another element to our in-house sexual assault forensic collection room, which has already helped many individual survivors begin the healing process,” Ms. Wesley said.

The bed was purchased with funds granted by the Salah Foundation, which is a private foundation that supports non-profit organizations in the United States that strengthen families and communities and advances individuals to become productive and responsible citizens.

Project HELP executive director Eileen Wesley with new ADA-approved bed

Project HELP Executive Director Eileen Wesley with the nonprofit’s new ADA-approved bed will help those with disabilities.

Project HELP’s forensic collection room allows the organization to immediately help those in need, providing forensic services to survivors in a completely private, secure location. A forensic examination for evidence collection is immediately followed by crisis intervention for the survivor, as well as family or friends who are present, to begin the healing process.

The recently acquired ADA-compliant forensic examination beds continue furthering Project HELP’s mission of working with dignity and compassion to ease the pain of those affected by rape, violence or other crimes. Now those with disabilities don’t need to feel that they’ll be stigmatized or turned away if they call Project HELP for guidance or treatment, according to Ms. Wesley.

“The ADA exam bed will allow us to support the needs of people with and without disabilities, making our services more accessible to all people in the community,” according to Ms. Wesley. “The special features of the bed allow exams to be performed with dignity and respect for each individual’s physical abilities.”

2018 was a big year for Project HELP, with 342 new clients supported through counseling, support groups, court accompaniment, advocacy and information referral through our 24-hour HELP line. More than 3,000 clients were served in house, with nearly 900 callers supported via the HELP line.

Blaming the victim of a crime: It’s not alright

George Michael sings “Sometimes the clothes do not make the man” in his song Freedom.
However, many in the Florida legislature would argue that this is not necessarily the case, especially in light of the bill to ban saggy pants from the state public school system. Add to this France’s President Nikolas Sarkozy’s recent ban on burqahs, and it seems that local and national governments alike have much to say about the clothes their respective citizens wear.

So what do our clothes actually say about us? According to the Italian Supreme Court, which in 1998 overturned the conviction of a man in his late 40s for the alleged sexual assault of an 18- year-old girl, clothes mean a great deal.

The girl in this case reported to the police that at the time of her assault, she was wearing tight-fitted jeans and the court ruled that the only way she could have been raped was to assist her alleged perpetrator in the removal of her pants, thereby making the sex consensual.

Never mind the threats he made on her life, the position of authority he held (her driving instructor), or the fear of a young girl in a vulnerable position trapped in a car in a remote location.

Unfortunately, not much has changed in the 13 years since this ruling in the Italian courts.
One of the more upsetting news stories of March 2011 in the United States involved an 11-year-old girl who alleged she was gang-raped by approximately 18 (the number could climb as high as 28) young men in a Texas trailer park.

As if that alone was not traumatic enough for the young girl involved, many have stepped forward to defend her alleged perpetrators, citing the attire the victim was wearing at the time of the rape, and the possibility of the high school’s “star athlete” and the son of a “local school board member.”

Perhaps this is an example of economy of blame—it is far easier to blame an 11-year-old child for dressing in a provocative manner, than to hold the 18 (and perhaps more) of her alleged assailants responsible for their actions.

In our line of work, however, we call this blaming the victim. And it is not an “economical” way of assigning blame, but rather a way to keep our society from having to take too close of a look at how it fosters the mentality that some victims are just asking for [insert violent crime of choice here].  The young girl in the case above actually had to be removed to a safe house as her life was threatened. Her phone also began ringing off the hook with people “looking for her.”

An article in the New York Times asked, “If the allegations are proven, how could this town’s young men have been drawn into such an act?”

As if 18 (or more) poor helpless men, ranging in age from 17-28, were completely powerless to the siren-like charms of this 11 year-old girl who dressed provocatively. As if they had no idea at all that sex with a minor is illegal, and that furthermore, videotaping this act on their cell phones was not a good idea.

Perhaps it is just easier to blame the victim here, than to recognize how completely embarrassing and wrong it is that nearly 30 young men felt they were entitled to rape a young girl. These perpetrators were arrogant enough to think that even when they were caught on video, they would not be held responsible for their actions.

Volunteering: Why should I do it?


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What can you do in your spare time? 

When people are in crisis, where do they turn? When a violent crime has been committed, who is there to help? When a sexual assault happens, what happens to the victim? The list of questions is endless, crisis is always happening. There is a place that is open 24 hours a day 7 days a week; it’s the Project HELP’s Crisis and Sexual Assault Hotline.

Our hotline is always answered by a live volunteer advocate. Our fully trained advocates are ready and waiting to help people in need, people who need help, people who don’t know where to turn. We will work diligently to find the right resource to help almost any situation.

We run the hotline on a volunteer basis. Volunteering is a very rewarding way for someone to give back to their community and help their neighbors, family and friends get through some pretty rough times. Volunteer by definition is the practice of people working on behalf of others or a particular cause without payment for their time and services. People volunteer for various reasons with some being connecting with the community, giving back, helping others to a personal experience.

What does it take to be a volunteer?

Compassion: To be able to feel for others who are struggling with life’s ups and downs. To be able to listen and guide through understanding and care how and who could help them.

Passion: The passion to want to help someone who has just been a victim of a violent crime or the loss of a loved one suddenly. The passion to be able to understand what needs to be done to help these people, utilizing the tools and training we provide.

Personal Growth and Benefit: Wanting to be able to grow as a person, feel a sense of accomplishment, learn a new skill or become more aware of what is going on in their community.

Availability: Volunteering gives you the availability to work when you can. Set your own hours and work from home.

Sense of Belonging: Wanting to feel like a part of a team that is helping their community. A chance to meet new people while working through difficulties and seeing positive results.

There are plenty of other reasons people want to volunteer, so if any of these reasons have crossed your mind, we are looking for you. Project HELP is always looking to grow its volunteer base. Please feel free to contact the Victim Service Coordinator Eileen Wesley at 239-649-1404 to start working with a team that has firm roots in the community and continues towards its goal that no one is alone and will always have someone to help.

Project Help is Collier County’s local rape and crisis center offering FREE & CONFIDENTIAL services. Services may include evidence collection, exam, immediate crisis intervention, working with law enforcement if reporting, counseling groups, court assistance, information and referrals, and our 24 hour hotline. If you need HELP…call our hotline: 239-262-7227

10 Things Happy People Do Differently

The following is an excerpt from the article: “10 Things Happy People Do Differently: 10 strategies happy people incorporate into their lives” by Paula Davis-Laack, J.D., M.A.P.P. “How happy are you and why?

This is a question I spend a fair amount of time thinking about, not only as it applies to my own levels of happiness, but also as it applies to my family, friends, and the people who I work with. Since graduating with my master’s degree in positive psychology, I’ve worked with and observed thousands of people in a wide variety of settings, and happy people just flow with the groove of life in a unique way.

Here is what they do differently:

  1. They build a strong social fabric
  2. They engage in activities that fit their strengths, values and lifestyle
  3. They practice gratitude
  4. They have an optimistic thinking style
  5. They know it’s good to do good
  6. They know that material wealth is only a very small part of the equation
  7. They develop healthy coping strategies
  8. They focus on health
  9. They cultivate spiritual emotions
  10. They have direction

Happy people have developed a specific set of strategies over time that causes them to see life differently – a balanced portfolio of skills and emotions. What would you add to this list?”

To read the full article on Psychology Today

Project Help is Collier County’s local rape and crisis center offering FREE & CONFIDENTIAL services. Services may include evidence collection, exam, immediate crisis intervention, working with law enforcement if reporting, counseling groups, court assistance, information and referrals, and our 24 hour hotline. If you need HELP…call our hotline: 239-262-7227

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